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How to Write a Tribute to a Brother Who Passed Away

Today we’re going to take a look at how to write a tribute to a brother who passed away.

The loss of a brother can be so incredibly hard, and writing a tribute for him can seem like a huge challenge. 

No one else shared your childhood memories the way he did, and no one better deserves a heartfelt eulogy or tribute reflective of all the great things he accomplished in his life. But when it comes time to honor your dear brother, it can be difficult to know what to say. 

Even if you and your brother had a complicated relationship, the passing of a family member is a heavy weight. We hope this list helps you to lighten your load, and to craft a beautiful goodbye message.

What Can I Say at My Brother’s Funeral?

Honoring your brother with a heartfelt tribute doesn’t mean that it has to be incredibly serious the whole time. He would love a bit of humor or perhaps an anecdote, don’t you think? 

You can share as little or as much as you’d like; we just don’t recommend speaking “off the cuff.” It’s good to think about it, ask other family members, and above all, write it down. 

Even if it’s only a short letter, you never know if your mind (and well-crafted words) will draw a blank, especially with all of the emotions you may be going through. 

How is a Tribute Different from a Eulogy or Obituary?

A tribute to a brother who passed away can be something that’s delivered while he is still living, while a eulogy is strictly for someone who has passed on. 

While eulogies are typically on the sad side (naturally), both tributes and eulogies can also include some lighthearted memories, stories, or even a joke that your loved one would have enjoyed. 

How to Write a Tribute to Your Brother

First of all, don’t rush the process! Take time to choose the right words; ones that incorporate beautiful memories and also remind the audience of your brother’s most well-loved qualities. 

Just like when writing any other speech, have both a highlighter and an eraser handy. Once started, the words might flow quickly and easily, but don’t get discouraged if you find it difficult to begin. We’ll provide some tips down below. 

It is a good idea that once you’ve finished, you put it away for a day or two, then re-read to gain some perspective before editing. 

1. Start with an Interesting Introduction

One of the first things you want to do is introduce yourself. Not everyone in the audience knows who you are, so it’s best to do so before beginning your heartfelt (or emotional) tribute. 

You can say something like, “My name is Helen, and I was the favorite of Brian’s siblings.” That would get a chuckle, help everyone to relax, and would be a great way to start. 

2. Provide a Brief Overview of His Life

You certainly don’t have to include every year of his life or his entire childhood, but focus on the important highlights. 

His early years, schooling, his best friends, favorite holiday traditions, the career he built, his beloved wife and family, and so on. 

Related: Inspirational Eulogy Examples

3. Celebrate His Accomplishments and Challenges

Was he the first in the family to graduate college? How about if he had a military career? Did he battle some unique disabilities or personal demons and conquer them? 

There are lots of things you can bring up to really highlight the bravery and determination he showed during his life here on earth, however long or short it may have been. 

4. Let His Unique Personality Shine

If he was a jokester, he would probably love to be remembered for that! Or perhaps, if he was an artist or craftsman, you could showcase the joy he derived from working with his hands. Known for his bad dance moves, wacky haircuts, or mad trivia skills? Nothing is really off the table. 

Sometimes it’s the simple things, like the way he was a great friend to anyone he met, or the special relationship(s) he formed with animals. 

Or perhaps your brother’s heart was most present in the complex things? Maybe it was the beautiful way he counseled good friends and family through depression or mental illness, or helped others during financially hard times. 

Whatever showcases who he really was, his heart and his mentality, is the best for honoring his memory.

5. Tell a Story That Shows His Character

Reach into your memory banks and pull out one or two stories that really reveal his character! 

This can range from old childhood memories of being lovingly picked on by him, to the way he came through for you when you were struggling through your darkest days as a young adult, and he set you back on a healthy path. 

Whatever you choose, just ensure he remains the focus.

6. Include Personal Interests

Whether it’s a love for golf, board games, traveling, or underwater basket weaving, talk about how much he loved his passions! 

There might be a few the audience doesn’t know about, so this is your chance to share his quirky, nerdy, or eccentric side. 

7. Share a Life Lesson You Learned From Him

Your brother probably taught you a lot about life, let’s face it. If he was your big brother, you likely learned how not to pull the wool over your parent’s eyes! Or maybe he taught you how to be thrifty with your money, how to drive, or how to dress for your first date. 

If he was your baby brother you might have looked after him, which taught you responsibility and gave you your first taste of what it might be like to be a parent.

8. Celebrate His Faith

If he was a man of faith, that is an important topic to include to create a beautiful tribute, as it was an integral part of his life’s journey. 

Mentioning his religion, experiences, highs and lows, and highlighting them would mean the world to him. 

9. Express Gratitude & Offer Condolences

Thank the audience for coming, for honoring your late sibling with their presence, and for comforting one another during this difficult time.

Be vulnerable and sincere, and don’t forget to offer your own condolences to them as well. He will be missed by each and every one there! 

10. Honor His Legacy

If he had children, make sure to mention them fondly, and to remind them how much he loved them and lived for them. 

Talk about how the whole family will honor his legacy by doing something specific: planting a tree in his memory, scheduling a vacation each year together, putting together a slideshow, or toasting him at his gravesite on his birthday are just a few examples. 

Related: Ways to Pay Tribute to Someone Special at the Funeral

Short Memorial Quotes to Honor Your Brother

Here are some short quotes to help inspire you as you are writing your tribute:

• “There is a little boy inside the man who is my brother… Oh, how I hated that little boy. And how I love him too.”—Anna Quindlen
• “Never make a companion equal to a brother.” — Hesiod
• “I had a brother who was my savior, who made my childhood bearable.” — Maurice Sendak
• “Brothers and sisters are as close as hands and feet.” — Vietnamese Proverb
• “There is no love like the love for a brother. There is no love like the love from a brother.” — Astrid Alauda
• “From the time we’re born, our brothers and sisters are our collaborators and co-conspirators, our role models and our cautionary tales.” — Jeffrey Kluger
• “Because brothers don’t let each other wander in the dark alone.” — Jolene Perry
• “Sometimes being a brother is even better than being a superhero.”— Marc Brown
• “How do people make it through life without a brother?” — Unknown
• “After a girl is grown, her little brothers — now her protectors — seem like big brothers.” — Terri Guillemets
• “Brothers don’t necessarily have to say anything to each other — they can sit in a room and be together and just be completely comfortable with each other.” — Leonardo DiCaprio

Examples of Tributes to a Brother

The best tribute for a brother is one that combines memories with a lot of heart and maybe a little bit of humor (if that suited his personality). 

Try to mix and match your stories, from funny to moving or inspiring. Be sure to include the other important people in his life, too (no need to make it all about you).

Here are some short tribute ideas to get your imagination going. We hope you find them helpful! 

Short Tribute to a Brother Who Passed Away

As I reflected on my brother’s life this week, I was once again blown away by the way he loved his people. He loved long and with forgiveness. 

That was such an inspiration to me! Going forward, I hope I can be remembered with as much love as we all remember him. 

He left behind a legacy that will stand the test of time — from his awesome children, to his stunning wife, to his naughty Golden Retriever. He impacted all of us so well! 

Heartwarming Tribute to a Brother Who Passed Away

What a beautiful man my brother was! While his life on earth was tragically short, he lived more in those years than most do in a hundred. He was my best friend and my confidante, but as I look around, I recognize so many who would say the same about him! That leaves me with such joy and pride.

My patient, gentle, and loving brother was a true friend to so many. He was an advocate for the unlovable, you could say! I should know — I was one at one time. He never judged, and was such a great listener. 

I am so proud that he passed on those qualities to those around him. May we live better lives because he was here, and honor the memory of my brother by doing so. 

Christian Tribute to My Late Brother

My brother was a man who loved God, and oh, how God loved him! They are rejoicing together now in heaven — probably telling silly jokes and going fishing. He lived the most God honoring life he could, and his faithfulness to Christ was an encouragement to so many.

While we on earth will miss him with every fiber of our beings, we know he is spending eternal life in bliss and happiness with his Savior, just waiting patiently at the gates of heaven for us to finish the journey and join him. 

His life, morals, and convictions never wavered. His manner of living and faith always matched up, even when it was hard. May you fly high with the angels, my brother! 

Inspiring Tributes for My Older Brother

Just as he inspired us to live large, laugh often, and love all the time, so will we promise to do the same! My brother inspired all of us, and we pledge today to not sully those memories by wallowing in grief, or forgetting what he practiced and preached every day. 

Watching his little children now reminds me that his legacy lives on and will never die. We will honor you, brother, by living well, talking about you often, and sharing with the world the joy you brought into it. 

Heartfelt Tributes for My Younger Brother

What can I do other than share the bittersweet memories and feelings I have for this man, my brother? He was always there for me, not just in words, but in actions and truths. 

From the first time we snuck out through the bedroom window (sorry, Mom and Dad) and crazy holidays, to summer camps and sharing a car throughout high school — he and I were an integral part of one another’s lives and hearts. 

What to say when you lose a part of your soul? Brother, you will be missed and mourned for a long time, and never forgotten. Thank you for being my brother. You were the most meaningful gift I ever received. 

In Loving Memory of My Beloved Brother

With all of the slideshows that have been on repeat in my head since we lost you, I have remembered the good times and the bad! 

You were a complex character, and yet all of my favorite memories were spent with you. Now, without my partner in crime, I am left alone and a bit scared — kind of like when we lost Mom in the grocery store that one time. 

Going on without you seems to be a crime of sorts! Yet, you would want us to go on indeed, and to live our best lives. Thank you for being our example, and we wish you peace, Brother.

Words for Someone Who Lost Their Brother

My heart grieves with you and for you.

Siblings are the most wonderful friends. I am so sorry you lost your brother. 

I know you are hurting right now. Please let me know what I can do.

He was such a special person! Know that he was loved.

I always adored your brother. What a shining star he was! 

I feel so lucky to have known him, even just a little.

May your family feel loved and embraced in this difficult time.

I’ll always remember him with such fondness and so many wonderful memories! 

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10+ Eulogy Examples for a Brother (Short, Heartfelt and Touching)

After the passing of your brother you may want to write and deliver a eulogy . A reading that remembers your brother, talks about his life and legacy and how much he meant to you is a good way to say goodbye.

But it can be difficult finding the right words and knowing what to say. How do you sum up his entire life in such a short time.

If you’re having a hard time writing a eulogy for your brother then the following examples should give you some idea of what to say and include.

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Short Eulogy Examples for a Brother

These heartfelt and short eulogy examples for a brother

Celebrating a Life Full of Laughter

Reflecting on a Brother’s Guidance

Remembering a brother’s adventurous spirit.

Longer Eulogies for your Brother

Celebrating a life of passion.

As I stand before you today my heart is heavy with both sorrow and gratitude. We are here to honor and remember my brother, a man of incredible passion and spirit.

From our childhood days he was always the one with big dreams and an even bigger heart. He pursued his passions with such eagerness and zeal that was inspiring to all who knew him. Whether it was his love for music, his dedication to his career or his commitment to his family, he did everything with his whole heart.

My brother was not only a source of inspiration but also of great support. He was my confidante, a rock I learnt in for support and of course my best friend. His ability to listen, to understand and to offer wise advice was a gift to everyone who was lucky to know him.

Reflecting on Brotherhood and Memories

Gathering here today, I am reminded of the amazing bond of brotherhood. My brother was more than just a sibling; he was a part of my very soul. We shared a lifetime of memories from childhood antics to our adult achievements.

He was there through every important moment, always offering his support, his humor and his wisdom. That sense of humor was a real bright spot in our lives, and his laughter was contagious. We shared countless jokes, adventures and dreams. He was a remarkable individual, full of kindness and generosity.

He touched the lives of everyone he met with his compassionate nature and his eagerness to help others. His legacy is not just in the memories we cherish but also in the lives he impacted.

Honoring a Brother’s Strength

Today I stand here to honor a man of extraordinary strength and courage, my brother. He was not just brave in the face of challenges but he also had the courage to live his life authentically and with purpose.

My brother faced life’s ups and downs with the sort of attitude we could all learn from. He was full of strength and support for our family and for his friends. He taught us the importance of standing up for what is right, of fighting for our dreams and of facing life’s challenges with courage and determination.

His strength was not just physical but also emotional and spiritual. He had a deep understanding of life and often shared his insights with those around him. His wisdom and love have left such a wonderful legacy.

Full Brother Eulogies

Remembering my brother.

A Celebration of My Brother’s Life

Good afternoon everyone. We’re gathered here to celebrate and remember the life of my dear brother, a man who was not only a part of my family but a part of my very being. Standing here, I wish to share with you some of the most precious memories I hold, memories that will forever be etched in my heart.

My brother was a man of great humor and warmth. He had an ability to light up any room with his smile and fill our lives with laughter. One of my fondest memories was his love for music. He wasn’t just a fan; he lived and breathed music. His collection of records, his constant humming of tunes and the way his eyes lit up when his favorite song played are moments I will always remember with such fondness.

He also had an adventurous spirit, often leading us on unplanned road trips and exciting explorations. His zest for life was contagious and he taught me the importance of embracing the unknown with courage and excitement.

But more than anything my brother was the one I could turn to. In times of trouble he was always the first to offer a helping hand or a shoulder to lean on. His advice, though delivered with humor, was always wise and heartfelt. His strength never failed, and in the face of adversity was so admirable.

As I stand here today, I realize how fortunate I have been to have such a wonderful person in my life. He wasn’t just my brother; he was my closest friend. His teachings about life, his total support and his endless love are treasures I will carry with me forever.

In Loving Memory of My Brother

Farewell to My Beloved Brother

Dear family and friends, it is with a heavy heart that I stand before you today to say goodbye to my beloved brother. He was an extraordinary person who has left us far too soon.

My brother was a constant presence in my life and his absence leaves a void I will never be able to fill. He was my mentor, the one who protected me and my greatest cheerleader. He always approached life with a positive outlook and his ability to find hope in the darkest of times was remarkable.

One of the things I’ll remember most fondly is our endless conversations. Whether we were discussing life’s big questions or sharing simple everyday moments, he always had a way of making everything seem significant and special. His wisdom, empathy and insight made those conversations so special.

My brother also had a passion for the outdoors. His love for nature shone through in his gardening, his hiking adventures and his respect for all living things. He found peace and solace in the beauty of the natural world and he shared that love with all of us.

Reflecting on his life, I am struck by the profound impact he had on those around him. He was the embodiment of love. His legacy is not just in the memories we cherish but also in the lives he touched with his generous spirit.

Tribute to My Brother’s Endearing Spirit

Honoring My Brother’s Journey

Ladies and gentlemen, we gather here today not just to mourn, but to celebrate the remarkable life of my brother.

My brother was the most optimistic person I knew, always seeing the good in people and situations. His infectious smile and hearty laugh could brighten the gloomiest days. One of the things I’ll always remember is his love for storytelling. Whether recounting adventures from his youth or spinning tales from his vivid imagination he had a unique way of capturing our attention and transporting us to different worlds.

He was also a man of many hobbies, a true Renaissance man you could Sy. His passion for painting, his skill at woodworking and his dedication to learning new things were a testament to his curious mind and creative spirit.

But perhaps amongst so many admirable traits the most impressive was his selflessness. He was always there for others, offering his help without a second thought. His generosity knew no bounds, and his willingness to put others before himself was a true reflection of his character.

As I reflect on the time spent with him I am filled with gratitude. He was not just my brother; he was my role model and my best friend. His lessons of kindness, courage and humility have shaped who I am today.

Remembering My Brother’s Loving Heart

A Final Goodbye to My Brother

Today, as we gather to bid farewell to my beloved brother, my heart is filled with both sorrow and love.

My brother had an extraordinary ability to connect with people. His empathy and genuine interest in others’ well-being made him a cherished friend to so many. I will forever cherish our late night conversations where he shared his dreams, fears and hopes with a level of honesty and vulnerability that was truly special.

He was also a man of great talent and passion. His love for music was evident in every note he played on his guitar. I remember sitting and listening to him play on countless occasions and those are memories I revisit often.

Moreover, my brother’s sense of humor was unparalleled. He had a knack for finding humor in everyday situations and his laughter was contagious. He taught us the importance of not taking life too seriously and finding joy in the small things.

In his life, he faced challenges with a strength and grace that was nothing short of inspiring. He showed us that even in the darkest times there is hope and strength to be found.

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Writing a Heartfelt Eulogy for Your Brother

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Writing a eulogy for your brother is a special way to honor his memory. Composing a eulogy can take time, but can be a lot easier to do if you stay organized, ask for help if needed, and use simple tips to help guide your process.

How to Write a Eulogy for a Brother

As you begin the eulogy writing process, be sure that you are in the proper headspace to do so. If you need a break, or need to resume at a different time, that's totally okay. To begin the process:

• Jot down favorite memories and stories- can ask family members and friends for help.
• Set the tone (serious, lighthearted, appropriately funny).
• Write a rough draft that includes an opening paragraph, special memories, and closing thoughts.
• Revise your work and proofread.
• Practice the speech in front of someone who will give you honest feedback.
• Once finalized, continue practicing.
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How Do I Start a Eulogy for My Brother?

The opening of the eulogy often includes a welcome to those attending the funeral, memorial, or celebration of life service. It's best practice to focus the opening of the eulogy on your brother, rather than yourself. The start of the eulogy may include:

• State relationship to the deceased individual and use their name in describing the relationship. For example, "(Deceased individual's name) was my (older or younger) brother."
• Share a few sentences about your relationship with your sibling. You can touch on a brief childhood memory here, but think of it like a snapshot.
• You can mention those that your brother was closest to in the family, as well as best friends.

How to Introduce Yourself in Your Brother's Eulogy

Many eulogy speeches have the speaker introduce themselves after they welcome those who have come to honor the deceased individual. Examples of eulogy introductions for a brother include:

• "Good morning and thank you all for being here today to honor (insert deceased individual's name). I'm (insert your name), and (insert deceased individual's name) was my brother."
• "Thank you all for coming out today to celebrate the life of (insert deceased individuals' name). My name is (insert your name), and (insert deceased individual's name) was my brother."

What Should be Included in My Brother's Eulogy?

All eulogies will be unique and what's included or excluded will depend on the speaker's style. In addition to the standard information included in eulogies , your brother's may include:

• A brief snapshot of your childhood with your brother
• A brief mention of those who your brother was closest to in the family, as well as friends
• Sharing a special, poignant, or appropriately lighthearted memory that captures the essence of your brother
• A summary of your brother's positive personality traits and how that played out in his life
• His personal accomplishments and proudest moments
• A poem to honor your brother

Short Eulogy Examples for Brother

Reading sample eulogies can help you create a template for your own, unique eulogy speech for your brother. Some short eulogy examples include:

Eulogy Example for Brother-in-Law

"Hello and thank you all for being here today. My name is (insert name), and (insert deceased individual's name) was my brother-in-law. (Insert deceased individual's name) was an incredible partner to my sister and fit into our family perfectly. To me, we felt like brothers from the second my sister started dating him. He was warm, kind, and always ready to have a good time. Over the years, we all watched in awe as he excelled in his career as a (insert career), but always managed to remain humble. He has always been an incredible support system for all of us, but especially my sister. I remember him dropping everything and driving cross country to comfort my sister when her best friend got into an accident. That's just the kind of guy (insert deceased individual's name) was. (Insert deceased individual's name) will be missed by many, but we will never forget the love we all shared as a family. Thank you all for being here today."

Eulogy for Estranged Brother

"Thank you for being here today to honor, (insert deceased individual's name). I'm (insert name) and (insert deceased individual's name) was my older brother. (Insert deceased individual's name) and I didn't always get along. In fact, it was rare that we saw eye to eye- nevertheless, he was my brother and will always have a place in my heart. (Insert deceased individual's name) was a passionate, brilliant, and curious person, and had been so ever since we were little. As an adult, he was highly accomplished, and extremely driven in his line of work. (Insert deceased individual's name) loved to hike, spend time with animals, and read anything he could get his hands on. He was especially passionate about volunteer work, and even in the last years of his life, he dedicated himself to helping others. He has touched so many lives and will be missed by many. Thank you all for coming out to honor him today."

Eulogy for Brother With Alcohol Use Disorder or Other Difficulties

"Today we are all here to honor (insert deceased individual's name). My name is (insert name) and (insert deceased individual's name) was my younger brother. I want to give a special thank you to the aunts, uncles, and cousins who flew quite a long distance to be with us today- know that it is appreciated. As many of you know, (insert deceased individual's name) had his struggles, and tried for quite some time to overcome them. Despite what he was dealing with, (insert deceased individual's name) was a courageous and kind soul who went the extra mile for those he cared about. As a kid, I remember him so lovingly saving a baby bird who had fallen out of its nest, and as an adult, he kept that same, gentle spirit. He will be deeply missed by many- I love you (insert deceased individual's name). Thank you."

Eulogy From a Sister

"(Insert deceased individual's name) was my younger brother and I know he would have been happy to know that all of you are here to honor his life today. My name is (insert name) and I've known (insert deceased individual's name) my entire life. When (insert deceased individual's name) came into this world, I knew my life would be forever changed. I loved having a brother more than anything and often pretended to be his mom growing up. Although we all feel (insert deceased individual's name) was taken far too soon from this world, I know that he lived a beautiful life and has changed the world for the better. I will miss (insert deceased individual's name) every day for the rest of my life and feel so lucky to have shared such incredible memories with him. Thank you."

Eulogy From a Brother

"Today we are here to honor (insert deceased individual's name), my brother- I'm (insert name). Having a brother growing up wasn't always the easiest, but as we got older, I realized I truly had a partner in crime, someone to always have my back, and support me. (Insert deceased individual's name) was generous, loving, and dedicated to his family. He was always there, at the drop of a hat, if you needed anything. I remember him flying me to New York, when I went through a rough patch. That's just who he was- always thinking of others, and always there, especially for his family. The world will truly never be the same without (insert deceased individual's name), but I will hold the memory of him close to my heart for the rest of my days. Thank you."

Eulogy From a Friend Who Was Like a Brother

"Thank you for being here today. I am speaking on behalf of the (insert surname) family. My name is (insert name), and although (insert deceased individual's name) and I weren't technically blood related, we might as well have been. We grew up next to each other and for as long as I can remember, (insert deceased individual's name) has always been there for me- every special memory, every breakup, every misstep, every success- (insert deceased individual's name) was there. I don't have the words to express quite how heartbroken I am about this loss, and I don't know what life will look like without (insert deceased individual's name), but I do know that I have been incredibly lucky to have shared such amazing memories with this person. Thank you."

Ask For Help

Writing a eulogy can feel daunting and can be especially challenging to put together while you are grieving. Know that it is totally okay to reach out for help with writing the eulogy, as well as for grief support . Grief can cause mental fogginess and general fatigue, on top of other uncomfortable and/or emotionally draining symptoms, so be sure to listen to yourself, take breaks when needed, and reach out for appropriate help if you are struggling.

What to Write About Your Brother

Writing a eulogy for your brother may feel like an overwhelming task, especially if you are in the midst of grieving. Take your time, reach out for help if you would like some support, and write from your heart.

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How to write a eulogy for a brother.

Writing a eulogy for a brother is a wonderful opportunity to express how special your relationship was, how unique your brother was, and what made your brother stand out from the crowd. Never written a eulogy before? Don’t worry. These steps will guide you through the process of writing a eulogy for your brother so that you can feel confident sharing it.

First off, what’s a eulogy?

A eulogy is a short piece of writing or a small speech that’s done in honor of someone who has recently passed away. They are typically read by someone who was close to the deceased and take around 3 - 10 minutes in total time to read.

Does a eulogy have to be serious and somber?

A eulogy can be anything you want it to be – it can be as serious or as funny as you prefer. The key is to stay authentic and true to the person who passed away. If they were a serious person, writing an over the top funny eulogy may not ring appropriate for their personality, but it’s up to you as the eulogy writer to decide the kind of eulogy you’d like to write. It can help to think of the tone of the event you’re holding and the audience that will be attending. If it’s a celebration of life, you may feel more inclined to write a lighthearted eulogy compared to one that’s focused on the loss of life.

I’ve never written a eulogy. Where do I start?

Wondering how to write a eulogy for a brother? This guide has got you covered. Here are the steps you’ll need to take in order to craft a eulogy for a brother:

• Start by looking through eulogy examples for brothers. Looking at a sample eulogy for a brother before you get started writing one for your own brother is a great idea, especially if you’ve never written a eulogy before. Example eulogies will give you an idea as to the typical content, length, and style that many eulogies come in.
• Once you have an understanding of what a standard eulogy looks like, it’s time to reference a guide on how to write a eulogy . This guide will give you step by step instructions on how to write a eulogy.
• After you have looked through examples and read over the guide, you can get started on the eulogy for your brother. Some ideas to consider and reflect on when writing a eulogy for a brother include: What made your brother unique? What qualities of his did people remark on? What was he passionate about? What did he love? What did he hate? Did he offer any helpful guidance or advice? What kind of person was he?
• With your ideas and reflections written out, start organizing your thoughts into a eulogy format.
• Once you’ve written the eulogy, try reading it out loud in front of family and friends for guidance or feedback before you read it at the memorial service or event.

If you still feel uncomfortable writing a eulogy, you do have the option of hiring a professional eulogy writer to craft a eulogy in your stead.

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Do I need to write a formal eulogy?

If you’re not comfortable writing a formal eulogy or would prefer something much more casual, you do not need to feel pressured to write a eulogy. Eulogies are technically just a short speech given at a memorial service, so you could consider just saying a few words about your brother when it comes time. You can also consider asking someone else to write the eulogy or asking someone else to speak in your place at the funeral. This choice is up to you.

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These are two genuine eulogies written shared with us by Frances and Athelie. At the end you’ll find a link to a third example. We hope that these sample eulogies for a brother will help you when it is time to write one of your own. 

But first, a beautiful quote about a brother recently written for us by one of our readers.  It would make a lovely opening for a eulogy. 

A brother is there to help us be confident when timid, to be strong when weak, and to be fearless when scared.

He is an inspiration and his memory will be in our thoughts forever.

In Memory of My Brother, by Frances

Whenever I think about my brother, I remember his bright smile. He had one for everybody he met along the way. I cry and cry, knowing that I will never be able to see that smile again. But as I look back and remember the life that he had, I know he is smiling down at us with the brightest smile that he can give, knowing we remember him.

The pain of his death is not something that can go away with just sincere condolences or a bunch of flowers. What makes it bearable is knowing that we are gathered here today because of the wonderful memories he left us. You all came here and shared hours of your day because he was a loving son, a supportive brother, a loyal husband, a good father, and an amazing friend. He left us a part of him that neither time nor even his death can ever take away.

As the eldest of five children, my brother was the glue that held the family together when responsibilities and adulthood shipped us off in different directions. He had the leadership of an eldest, the strength of a middle child and the warmth of a pretend youngest. He would constantly call ahead of time to remind us about a coming celebration or holiday often taken for granted when life hits hard. Birthdays would excite him, and it was always his yearly challenge to be the first one to greet you when the clock struck 12. He appreciated every effort exerted and would exclaim “Perfect!” on a basic omelet you’d made for him. On his birthday, he would beam in happiness over a simple card with a small message or just a plain shirt making him feel that he had crossed your mind. He used to call out of nowhere to remind us about random things and moments as if he was scared that we would forget about it, or maybe because he felt that we might forget him if he failed to call regularly.

When I expressed my dream of becoming a lawyer, he dreamt with me. He was loud and proud when I started my journey. Together with the whole family, he was with me every step of the way. On an examination day in law school, he would make an excuse to travel three hours away from home to my boarding house, and he would bring me my favorite roasted chicken because he knew that I would be busy with my revision and would most likely starve myself. He was excited for my Bar review even years before I graduated. He planned to be with me during the start of my Bar exam preparation to become my solo support system. 

Losing him is like losing my wings. Flying is close to impossible because the pain has crippled me. What keeps me going is that I would be wasting our dream if I stopped flying because I have lost him. He would want me to continue chasing my dreams bravely if he was here.

I saw how he loved his wife on days when you could never separate them. He would sweetly go wherever his wife went. As a father, he showered his kids with attention and care through constant communication. He supported their dreams and made sure each of his three kids felt valued and seen. Now I understand why. Something in him was probably telling him to live as if every day was his last.

To all of us who knew him, he was always there for us. One call of his name, and he would be with you in a heartbeat. One mention that you were in need, and he would give even his last penny. In this ever-changing world, he was our constant. His death will never change that fact.

He was not a saint, but he was the home that we could always return to because we knew that he would welcome us with arms wide open. We can all picture him with his signature smile telling us that he had got our backs.

He used to be everywhere around us, and suddenly, he is now gone forever. He has left an unbearable void. 

As I look into the crowd of people mourning for him, I find comfort in knowing that all of you love my brother. I find peace in knowing that he touched your life and that you also touched his heart at some point in his life. I find happiness in knowing that he will live on in all of your memories.  He may not have lived a perfect life, but he lived a good one. One that we will forever cherish and we will continue to remember.

I know my brother would hate to see us crying for him. He would want us to cling to the beautiful memories and forgive ourselves for whatever regrets we have. He would like us to be strong through the darkest days ahead. That is what he always does – he gives light and strength when it seems impossible to go on.

I can never deny the pain that I carry, but I would like us to remember him as a blessing and a lesson. I want to treasure the life he shared with us over the pain that his death has brought us.

Rest in eternal peace dear brother. You will live on forever in our hearts. 

For My Beloved Brother, by Athelie

Our childhood was my doll’s house where you weren’t supposed to enter, but always did. It was the big tree in the front yard that you helped me climb up, but not down.

We walked to the shops to buy Wicks chewing gum. You held my hand when we crossed the street.

We played and fought and drove Mom to distraction. We accused each other of being her favorite.

You teased, I whined.

We were big brother and little sister.

Our teens were hard times, filled with anger and depression. We drifted apart then and yet you comforted me when Smokey the Cat died, and I held your hand at David’s funeral.

We married our respective great loves. And then lost them.

You and Geraldine separated; Earl died.

You came to live with me for a while – I don’t remember for how long. Three weeks? A year? I don’t even remember if we talked about our sorrow. We were just there, together, big brother and little sister.

And then, wonderfully, in our forties we grew close again. We went to lunches, brunches, and every exhibition within a 100-mile radius. I went with you to football games and whined constantly. You came with me to the opera and always fell asleep.

And talk. We are talkers, you and I: politics and religion, books and those damn banks. Hours and hours of talking and listening and learning from each other.

Big brother and little sister.

And now I want to call you and tell you about how badly behaved The Dogs are today. I want to hear you lecture me about how it’s my fault and I must train them, not spoil them.

I want you to call me and say, “Switch on the TV, listen to what the idiot president is saying now,” and then hear you laugh like a crazy person.

I need your advice about the dent in my car.

When my jaw stops aching, and my throat opens, and I can see properly again, I’ll go to Luigi’s. I’ll sit at that table on the pavement in the shade. I’ll order a glass of dry white wine, with ice on the side, and I’ll say goodbye.

But not yet, my big brother, not yet.

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Eulogy for a Brother

We are gathered here today in the memory of my brother, Darrell, so that together we may acknowledge and share both our joy in the gift that his life was to us, and the pain that his passing brings. In sharing the joy and the pain together today, may we lessen the pain and remember more clearly the joy.

Darrell was just 67 years old when he passed away on Tuesday at St. Peter’s hospital. He was born on June 16, 1938 here in Springfield to Vernon and Emily (Thatcher) Green. Darrell spent his life in Springfield, farming for over 40 years.

Darrell was very close to his family, to his friends, and also his beloved cat, Crackers. Growing up with Darrell as an older brother wasn’t always easy for us. He would pick on us constantly, but let anyone else even look at us funny, and Darrell would be on our side, whatever may come. Darrell was good to his friends and employers, the Edwards family, and they were good to Darrell – their care and support during his last years especially, is very much appreciated by all of us. As a farmer, Darrell worked hard, but he also enjoyed his life. He loved to fish, and hunt deer, turkey and geese. There are a lot of stories about us hunting up North together, but I’m afraid that that those stories will have to stay up North. Sometimes it was suspected that Darrell may have found a nice spot under a tree and maybe did more napping than hunting. Darrell had planned to retire up North, and though that didn’t end up working out, he will be going back this spring when we scatter his ashes up at Marshall Point where he loved to hunt and perhaps nap.

There were other things besides hunting and fishing, Darrell collected farm toys- and we’ve brought some in today. He loved playing cards and going to the casino. He especially liked to play poker. Darrell loved to watch westerns-especially John Wayne Westerns, he enjoyed both kinds of music, Country and Western. A favorite was Singing Cowboy Gene Autry’s ‘Red River Valley’.

Many of you will recall Darrell’s huge garden. He enjoyed working in his garden and enjoyed sharing his produce with many of his friends in town- beautiful homegrown tomatoes. Darrell was a man who didn’t have a mean bone in his body, a warm friendly man who made his mark in the world not with grand gestures or fancy titles, but by the basic goodness and generosity of his character, by the quality of his involvement with his fellow man, and how he brought out these qualities in others.

There is a poem that speaks to these qualities ‘The House by the Side of the Road’ by Sam Walter Foss

There are hermit souls that live withdrawn

In the place of their self-content;

There are souls like stars, that dwell apart,

In a fellowless firmament;

There are pioneer souls that blaze the paths

Where highways never ran-

But let me live by the side of the road

And be a friend to man.

Let me live in a house by the side of the road

Where the race of men go by-

The men who are good and the men who are bad,

As good and as bad as I.

I would not sit in the scorner’s seat

Nor hurl the cynic’s ban-

I see from my house by the side of the road

By the side of the highway of life,

The men who press with the ardor of hope,

The men who are faint with the strife,

But I turn not away from their smiles and tears,

Both parts of an infinite plan-

I know there are brook-gladdened meadows ahead,

And mountains of wearisome height;

That the road passes on through the long afternoon

And stretches away to the night.

And still I rejoice when the travelers rejoice

And weep with the strangers that moan,

Nor live in my house by the side of the road

Like a man who dwells alone.

Let me live in my house by the side of the road,

They are good, they are bad, they are weak, they are strong,

Wise, foolish – so am I.

Then why should I sit in the scorner’s seat,

Or hurl the cynic’s ban?

Let me live in my house by the side of the road

There were many wonderful aspects to Darrell’s life, and many ways that he touched our lives. He will be remembered as a wonderful brother, a great friend, a generous uncle, cousin, outdoorsman, a poker player, collector, and farmer, a friendly face in town, or in the yard of his house by the side of the road. In all these ways and more, he made our lives richer and fuller. Now that he has passed away, of course there is emptiness and pain, confusion and maybe even anger at death coming to a man of only 67 years, but in many ways, the gift of Darrell’s life is still here with us. He lives on in our memories and stories, and in what all of us have become because of him. So I encourage you to share –today, tomorrow and in the years to come- your memories and stories, and to share the pain of your loss as well. In this way we will keep the gift of Darrell’s life alive.

On behalf of the rest of the family, I’d like to thank you all for coming here today.

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- how to prepare a sincere commemorative speech.

By:  Susan Dugdale  | Last modified: 04-18-2021

A tribute speech belongs in a special category of speeches called commemorative. Its principal purpose is to inspire and celebrate; uniting listeners in sincere, heartfelt gratitude and admiration for its subject.

Have you been asked to prepare a tribute speech and need to know more?

What you'll find on this page

• what occasions are most likely to call for a tribute speech
• the characteristics of a tribute speech
• how to begin the process of writing a tribute speech 
• how to choose a topic
• information about eulogies or funeral speeches, (a special type of tribute speech), with links to examples.

What occasions call for a tribute speech?

A tribute speech may be delivered at any of the following celebrations:

Anniversaries

These may be family events for example; a  50th wedding anniversary  or a  milestone birthday , or they could be public ones, for example; celebrations marking historic events like  Remembrance Day  or, the passing of a famous person.

At a family reunion this form of speech may be given to honor its senior members.

Similarly it will be an important part of the reunions of people brought together by work, sport, interests or vocation.

Memorial services or funerals

The eulogy you hear at a memorial service or funeral is a special type of tribute speech celebrating the life of the person who has passed away.

A tribute speech at an award presentation will honor the achievements of the award recipients. For example film, music or sports awards.

Although thought of as  'wedding speeches', the best man, father-of-the-bride speeches and their variations, are all forms of tribute speeches.

Retirements

The tribute speech heard at a retirement celebration honors the retiree by acknowledging their service and contribution.

The characteristics of the speech

Whether the focus is a person,  or an event involving a  group of people, its characteristics are:

• admiration and respect
• a focus on positive qualities: perseverance, dedication, humility, compassion, honesty, trustworthiness, loyalty, sacrifice, service, kindness, humor ...
• highlighting accomplishments and the difficulties overcome to achieve them
• a reflection on the positive impact and contribution of the focal group or person on the lives of others
• grateful acknowledgment of what we can learn from their example to take into the future

How to begin writing a tribute speech

The first step in your process is finding out as much as you can about the occasion itself and then deciding on a topic, (if it hasn't already been decided for you).

You'll want to know:

• who the audience is
• whether you are the only speaker, or one in a series of speakers
• how long you expected to speak for
• whether the event is formal or informal
• if there are any special requirements the organizers may have that need to be included in your speech

How to choose a topic

Generally the occasion chooses it for you! If you're asked to speak at the celebration marking your Mother's 70th birthday or a similar event, then you know what the central topic is.

What you'll need to decide is how to handle it or what angle to take.

Get some help to find the right topic

If it's not clear what you should talk about, you'll find this page on how to select an inspiring tribute or  commemorative speech topic  helpful.

It walks you step by step through the process of finding a topic to suit your audience's needs and has a great selection of carefully picked links to help you research topic possibilities.

Get some help with planning and writing

There's a  tribute speech template  here that will be useful to help you plan the sections of your speech. Use it as a guide.

(On the same page is a speech I wrote to honor my Mother. It follows the template.)

Or if you'd like more than an outline to help you, you'll find the entire process of writing a speech mapped out step by step here:  how to write a speech .

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These links below will guide you through the process:

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Would you like to read a sample eulogy before you begin?

Reading others can be really useful in helping you decide what you want to achieve with your own speech.

Well known tribute speeches 

Here are three famous speeches, each illustrating the characteristics of a fine commemorative speech.

• Ronald Reagan's tribute for the crew of the  Challenger Space Shuttle  that exploded during its launch.
• Sen. Edward Kennedy's eulogy for his slain brother:   Robert F. Kennedy .
• Oprah Winfrey's eulogy for  Rosa Parks .

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I am very fortunate to have a collection of  not-so famous tribute speeches   on write-out-loud.com.  

These are very special because they're by people probably similar to yourself who have been asked to write a speech about someone they've loved dearly. 

There are eulogies for mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, colleagues,  and friends.

All of them have been sent in to provide examples to help people who are trying to write.  Seeing how others have handled the task gives them the courage and confidence to begin.

These eulogy pages get thousands of visitors every week.

And lastly, here is that link to the  commemorative speech for my mother.

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Eulogy for a brother

By kathryn barrett.

When asked about my brother Walter, I used to describe him by saying, “Children and dogs love him.”

And I think that’s about the finest thing that can be said about anyone.  Because dogs know—they have a sixth sense about who can be trusted.  And children feel—they feel in their heart who loves them and recognize a kindred spirit.

I have a vivid memory of Walter, about 13 or 14, swinging some of the younger neighbourhood kids around in his arms until they squealed with laughter.  He was a gentle giant, his stature unusual even for a well-fed suburban adolescent, his willingness to play with those many years younger even more unique. 

As his little sister, I basked in his popularity—when I wasn’t furious with him over some sibling spat.  We had a lot of those, but I only remember him hitting me once.  That was because I hid his Led Zeppelin albums.  I think everyone would agree I probably deserved it.

I learned early on that my larger-than-life brother was invincible.  He could do anything, perform any daredevil trick, and survive.

One of my earliest memories is on the front porch at our house on Poplar Street.  I was about four, he was five or six and had just gotten his green banana seat bike.  I remember him telling me to watch while he showed me his latest trick—riding with no hands and no feet.  It was only a few seconds after his feet had left the pedals and his hands lifted from the steering wheel that the bike crashed to the ground.

My impressionable four-year-old eyes saw blood pouring from him in several places, his body rapidly turning black and blue. He became the monster of my nightmares, as he rose from the wreckage and walked across the yard.  I screamed and ran inside for my mother.  Of course I cried louder than he did, as was always the case.  My big brother wasn’t afraid of much.

Except shots.  The kind the doctor gives you.  When they took Walter in for his six-year-old vaccinations it took two nurses to hold him down.  As I watched him kicking and screaming, I knew there was No. Way I was getting any of that.  If my big, strong brother was afraid of that needle, then so was I.

So when it came my turn I informed my mother that I wouldn’t be participating in this school-age ritual.  She didn’t press the issue, because frankly, after what she’d been through with Walter, a case of smallpox didn’t sound so bad.

Walter was always testing boundaries, exploring the limits—which was excellent, because then I knew exactly where they were, and I made sure I didn’t break the rules.

The only time I was even allowed to enter my big brother’s realm was when [our young aunt] P. came to visit.  Then we were the irrepressible Three Musketeers, led by fearless Walter, while P. had all the great ideas.  I was happy to tag along, knowing any mischief we got into would be blamed on one of them.

We ran away from home, always coming back in time for supper; made daring midnight escapes over the backyard fence; and played a game we invented called “Guess the Shakespeare quote”.  I kid you not; Walter was an expert on Shakespeare before he even got to ninth grade.  I told you he had guts: believe me, it takes a lot of courage for a twelve-year-old boy to quote the Bard instead of Jimmy Page.

Walter also played the piano, his skill part inherited talent and part due to the incredible reach of those long hands.  He played beautifully, our grandmother MeeMaw, who doubled as our piano teacher, always said.  And she wouldn’t have lied, even though, I’m pretty sure, Walter was always her favourite.

But his real talent was baseball. Little League baseball.

Walter was the tallest in the blue uniform of Monroe Brick.  He played first base and pitcher, a southpaw who pitched many winning games.  And when the chips were down, bases loaded, we could count on Walter to hit the grand slams and bring them all home.

After that incident on the bike, when he turned into a black and blue, blood spurting monster before my very eyes and then miraculously survived with nothing more than a few scrapes and some coveted BandAids, I decided my brother was indestructible.

He could do anything, and with Evel Knievel as his hero, he tried lots of stunts that would have killed any other kid on a banana seat bike.  And the bike eventually turned into a mini bike, and then a bigger motorcycle, and then a Trans Am, which he wrecked one day when he fell asleep while driving home after a night shift.  He survived that, as well as any number of minor work-related accidents.

He even survived a bad marriage, to his first wife whose name escapes me.

But after that he married a wonderful woman named B., and then he got even luckier: His lovely daughter C. was born.  I don’t think there was ever a prouder father.  Finally, he had his OWN kid to play with!  To roughhouse on the floor with, to carry on his tall, tall shoulders, to view the world with the childlike wonder he never lost.

I think life, then, was just about perfect for Walter.

I still remember the night he called me, to tell me the doctors had found a lump in his chest.  They thought it was cancer.  But as he described to me this baseball-sized mass, I figured it really must be a baseball.  I could not comprehend the idea of life-threatening cancer and my big strong brother in the same sentence.  Nope.  They’d open him up and find an actual Rawlings baseball. 

It was lymphoma instead.  A large mass, pressing against his heart.  But it didn’t kill him.  And he left the hospital with something even more precious: a baby boy. B. had given birth to T. the day after Walter’s surgery.  How lucky can one man be?  Go into the hospital to have a lump cut out of your chest and bring home another baby who fills your heart with joy.

It was much later on that his third wife M. called to tell me that Walter had had a heart attack, at just 42.  Again, I greeted the news with some scepticism.  He’d survived terrible bike accidents, a car accident or two, and cancer.  And he survived a heart attack, going back to work eventually on the high-rise buildings in Minneapolis he was so proud to have a part in constructing.

Walter was a wonderful stepfather to two children, E. and L. And a great friend to his children’s friends, his friends’ children, anyone who shared his Peter Pan-like love of childish things.

When they say people like to live on the edge, they were describing Walter.  Except Walter took that to mean he must live on the edge of a lake. He always lived near a body of water, from the time he was born on Poplar Street, next to the Ouachita River.

Even when we were growing up in a neat suburban neighbourhood, we lived near enough to Bayou DeSiard that when he was old enough, Walter would grab his fishing pole and ride his bike to the bayou and spend an afternoon fishing for bream.

When he was about 15, he was fishing in the bayou when he saw a man fall out of his boat.  Walter quickly reached over with his pole and helped pull the man to safety.  Walter was always lending a hand, to a stranger, to a friend, to his last love, P., who needed him as much as he needed her.

When Walter moved to Minnesota, there were plenty of lakes to choose from, and he lived on several.  In the winter, he literally lived ON the frozen lake, ice fishing in his ice house.

Eventually he moved back to Jones, where he was always happiest, next to the lake that eventually took his life.

Walter tempted death, from the time he was a kid on a bike, inventing stunts to impress his little sister, to the many times he drove all night after working a week on a boat on the Intracoastal canal, to the times he hung sheetrock high above the streets of Minneapolis in a fifty story building.

They say those who constantly cheat death are living life to the fullest.  Perhaps it’s the lack of fear that opens up one’s world, allows one to take risks that constrain lesser mortals.  Walter did live a full life, despite his too soon death.  He loved and embraced those around him, with those long arms and with his fearless heart.

Those of us who knew him, who loved him, who got angry with him, who worshiped him when he hit those grand slam home runs—we’ll miss the boy, and the man he turned out to be.  We’ll miss the gentle father, who cradled his babies against his hard chest while they slept, who taught his son to throw a baseball, who taught his daughter to ride a bike.

We’ll miss the friend, who was always quick with a funny line, who was always eager to go off on another adventure, who fought with us and loved us with equal passion.

We’ll miss the brother, the son, the boy who tested his limits, who brought home the trophies, who befriended and defended the neighbourhood dogs and children.

We’ll mourn the man who’s gone, whom we lost so tragically, but we’ll remember him, and remember that above all, he would want us to remember him as he lived, on the edge of a lake and on the fearless edge of what was possible.

I’d like to read a poem, by Joyce Grenfell:

If I should die before the rest of you

Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone

Nor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,

But be the usual selves that I have known.

Weep if you must

Parting is hell.

But life goes on.

So sing as well.

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1. Share personal stories and experiences

2. highlight his talents, passions, and interests, 3. speak about his influence on others, 4. discuss the challenges he overcame, 5. express your gratitude, 6. offer words of comfort and hope, tribute to my brother who passed away example.

Losing a sibling is a devastating experience that leaves a deep void in our hearts. Our brother, our confidant, our partner in crime, our role model – he holds an irreplaceable place in our lives. While nothing can bring back the person we lost, we can honour their memory through a heartfelt eulogy that captures the essence of who they were and what they meant to us.

In this article, we will walk you through some ideas on how to create a meaningful and engaging tribute to your brother who passed away. We will also show you how Eulogy Assistant , the world's #1 funeral speech writing software, can help you craft a personalized eulogy to celebrate and remember the life well lived.

First and foremost, it's essential to approach writing a eulogy for your brother with an open heart and a clear understanding of what you want to convey. Think about the special memories you shared, the lessons he taught you, the values that you admired in him, and the impact he had on your life and the lives of others.

Here are six ideas to consider while writing a tribute to your brother:

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This is an opportunity to reminisce and share the cherished moments you spent together – the ones that paint a picture of your brother's character, his kindness, humour, and strength. Whether it's an adventurous trip, a simple act of kindness, or a funny mishap, these stories will bring a smile to those who knew him and reinforce the bond you shared.

Celebrate the unique qualities that made your brother special. Was he an accomplished musician, a talented athlete, an inspiring teacher, or a dedicated volunteer? Talk about the passions that drove him and the aspirations that he had. By discussing his talents, accomplishments, and interests, you pay tribute to the person your brother was.

How did your brother impact the lives of those around him? Did he offer guidance or mentorship? Was he a loyal friend or a loving family member? Detailing the ways your brother touched other people's lives will show how much he was loved and admired by those who knew him.

Talk about the obstacles your brother faced and how he bravely dealt with them. Whether it was personal or professional challenges, discussing his journey and growth will allow others to connect with your brother's strength and resilience.

Take a moment to thank your brother for the impact he had on your life. Let him know how much you valued his love, guidance, and support. Be sincere in your appreciation, and it will resonate with those who listen to your words.

Finally, provide a sense of hope and comfort for those grieving alongside you. Share your belief in the power of love, memories, and the support of friends and family to help everyone cope with your brother's loss.

An example of incorporating these ideas into a eulogy could be:

"My brother, John, was a skilled guitarist who had a passion for helping animals. I remember days spent together at the local dog shelter, volunteering and caring for the animals. In his quiet way, he brought joy to every person and creature he encountered.

John faced incredible difficulties in his life, including a battle with cancer. Despite this, he never stopped smiling and continued to inspire others throughout his journey. I am eternally grateful for his love and wisdom and for the laughter we shared in good times and bad.

As we remember John today, we can find solace in knowing that his positive impact on this world will live on in our hearts and memories."

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How to Write an Obituary for a Brother

Updated 01/5/2023

Published 11/8/2021

Amy Wolkenhauer, BA in English/Creative Writing

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Most, if not all of us, need a little guidance on how to write an obituary , especially when we're overcome with grief from the loss of a brother—and best friend. Keep reading, and we'll show a few examples of how it's done.

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What should you include in an obituary for your brother, example obituaries for a brother, where can you post or submit an obituary for a brother.

From quotes and poems to a general structure or layout, we'll help you with both typical obituary elements and templates that you can easily follow. Use what works. Copy what's valuable. You can't go wrong when writing from a place in your heart.

In addition to a summary of your brother's life, you may want to include a quote from a well-loved author, an excerpt from a poem, or a verse from a religious text. These short lines can offer readers a more profound reflection into his character or a family's love for him.

If you'd like to add a quote to your brother's obituary, make it personal. Choose a theme so that readers can cling to it as insight into your brother's way of thinking or life choices.

"By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.”   – Confucius

"Find out what makes you kinder, what opens you up and brings out the most loving, generous, and unafraid version of you—and go after those things as if nothing else matters. Because, actually, nothing else does."  – Nick Offerman

"Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe." – Albert Einstein

Inspiration

"Prolong not the past. Invite not the future. Do not alter your innate wakefulness. Fear not appearances. There is nothing more than this." – Ram Dass

Poems reflect on the many long stretches of life and learned wisdom using only a few words.

Formative Years

"Accept what comes from silence. Make the best you can of it. Of the little words that come out of the silence, like prayers prayed back to the one who prays, make a poem that does not disturb the silence from which it came."

– Wendell Berry

“A thing of beauty is a joy forever: Its loveliness increases; it will never Pass into nothingness; but still will keep A bower quiet for us, and a sleep Full of sweet dreams, and health, and quiet breathing.”

– John Keats

"The autumn-time has come;  On woods that dream of bloom,  And over purpling vines,  The low sun fainter shines. 

The aster-flower is failing,  The hazel's gold is paling;  Yet overhead more near  The eternal stars appear!” 

– John Greenleaf Whittier

Age of Reflection or Wisdom

"This day I breathed first: time is come round, And where I did begin there shall I end; My life is run his compass."

– William Shakespeare

Verses from religious texts

Religious and spiritual texts can evoke an internal prescription for embodying truths, spiritual pathways, or even reverence for a god. 

"Be equally indifferent to both and abide in the faith of God. That will be so only when one's faith is strong that God looks after all of us."  – Ramana Maharshi

"And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose." – Romans 8:28

"Life is suffering." – Buddha

Modern Pagan or Spiritual

"Water our blood. Air our breath. Earth our body. And fire our spirit." – Unknown

Not all obituaries are somber. Some intend to bring humor into the moment as if your brother were still alive and cracking jokes.

Western Philosophy

"In heaven, all the interesting people are missing."  – Friedrich Nietzsche

Famous Author

"Forgive, O Lord, my little jokes on Thee // And I'll forgive Thy great big one on me."  – Robert Frost

Beloved Comedian

"Seize the day. Because believe it or not, each and every one of us in this room is going to stop breathing." – Robin Williams

Baseball Legend

"Always go to other people's funerals, otherwise they won't come to yours." – Yogi Berra 

Below are the different parts or ingredients of an obituary that'll help you write a meaningful summary of your brother's life. Because obituaries often follow a similar order of information, you can think of this as a kind of obituary template . 

Just add or subtract any of the suggested elements as you see fit.

Use your brother's full name, as well as his nickname or preferred name, as not everyone knows him by the same moniker you gave him as a child. 

Date of birth

Dates of birth help people recognize your brother by his age and give them a quick history lesson by showcasing the era in which he grew up or the times through which he lived. 

Age at time of death

For many, age can be that marker of an achieved milestone. For others, it's recognition of a life cut too short. Add his age, but only if you feel that it's relevant or notable.

Cause of death

While some suggest a cause of death is an essential ingredient for each obituary, it's more of an older formality. Today, a person's cause of death can be too personal to share, especially in a world of Internet over-sharing. The decision is yours.

Favorite quotes

While not a necessary ingredient to obituaries, many people use these opportunities to let another's words creatively articulate their feelings. Use your best judgment on readability and for placement in the obituary.

Life summary

The life summary section is all about that final byline. You can highlight and recognize anything considered your brother's most outstanding achievements, sharing any critical facts or relevant details as needed. 

Here, you can also include such things as an award history, notable quirks, favorite hobbies, or the number of times your brother made a room burst with laughter. 

Surviving family 

Whether or not to include a list of surviving family members has been debatable as of late due to the unscrupulous behavior of some individuals taking advantage of survivors. 

But don't let that deter you, either. Often, mentioning family members, even beloved pets, can be cathartic for those in mourning.

Burial traditions seem to be changing with every passing generation. So, whether you plan on scattering ashes at the beach or holding a traditional religious ceremony, you can choose to include that in a section about services. 

People will include these as a way to engage others, invite without the act of a formal invitation, or to assure others that while services will be held, that they are intimate or at a later time.

In some cases, when services will not be held, families and friends call on charitable donations to be made in an individual's name. 

That means if your brother died of cancer, say, you could ask that donations be made to that specific cancer research. Or, if he was an arborist, you could ask readers to donate to a tree-planting movement in Oregon or across Africa.

Now that you know what goes into an obituary and why it's there, let's get you started on a few templates. Feel free to copy, cut, and paste, using any element herein as needed.

Example obituary for an older brother

Peter "Petey" James Carlson (1944 – 2021)

Died peacefully among family and friends on March 16 th .

Peter was a lifelong woodsman who started with Woodsman, Inc. at the ripe age of 14. While climbing the ladder of success, he met his wife Clary, married, and lived in a small, hand-built cabin outside Marquette. 

Peter's favorite quote was, "Seize the day. Because believe it or not, each and every one of us in this room is going to stop breathing." So, without children, he and Clary took that motto to heart. They frequently traveled, exploring the corners of every state, experiencing every continent but one until just before he retired in 2003.

It was then that Petey and Clary (d. 2011) moved to Florida, where they continued hosting holidays and gatherings for all of his siblings and their children. Although he was an exceptional grill chef, he was a terrible joke teller. And yet, he was an extraordinary and loving big brother. We'll miss you, Petey. 

Family services will be held at a later time. For those wishing to celebrate his life, please consider planting a tree in his name.

Ken, Larry, and Tom – Petey's kid brothers.

Example obituary for a younger brother

Scott Michael Harris (b. January 3, 1975, d. January 2, 2001)

"Life is Suffering" – Buddha

Scott meant more to his family than he ever understood. Please join us as we celebrate his short but beautiful life this Sunday at Meyer's beach. Bring a candle, a blanket, and a favorite story about my favorite little brother and human.

Example obituary for a twin brother

Earl "Clay" Clayton Guiney (1980 – 2021)

Clay was well-known as a scientist, philanthropist, and avid fly fisherman. He was recognized as "Most Up and Coming Scientist" and "Physicist of the Year" while creating numerous global STEM education organizations. 

To his family, Clay was also a comedian, and, as he used to say, "my favorite twin brother." Clay never met a laugh he didn't love or a person he couldn't care for behind the laughter. But his heart, though big and full, was also his greatest weakness as he struggled with it since birth.

Clay used to say, "Always go to other people's funerals, otherwise they won't come to yours." So, we invite those who loved him, were inspired by him, and even those who loathed his success to share in grief together this Friday, February 14 th . Services will be held at the Sacred Heart Parish at 10:00 a.m., with a reception to follow at McCaw Hall at noon.

In place of flowers, please bring a smile, a story, and a warm heart.

Example obituary for a brother-in-law

Neil Robinson-Tate, “Chi-Chi”

"The richness, beauty, and depths of love can only be fully experienced in a climate of complete openness, honesty, and vulnerability."

Today, we mourn the loss of a beautiful human, husband, and brother-in-law. Our hearts are once again empty, losing Neil so soon after Arles. 

We invite you to take part in memorializing Neil's life on Saturday, November 6 th . Please join us remotely as we celebrate a beautiful soul who became as intrinsically entwined with our family as only Neil could.

Contact Ted @ Flintoft's Funeral Home for more information and for how you can join us from home to mourn with us.

A celebration of life will be held for both Neil and Arles later when we spend time together.

Depending on what's suitable for your brother and your family, there are a handful of options where you can post or submit an obituary for your brother.

For many reasons, one of the most common places to submit an obituary is a newspaper. Not only is it a place of tradition and history dating back to Roman times, but it's also the quickest way to disseminate information among locals. 

Many small-town newspapers charge reasonable fees, even for lengthy posts and a picture, while more prominent publications require a substantial payment regardless of the word count. 

Online memorial website

Online memorial sites offer free and pay-per obituary publications. Some newspapers automatically link to them and list an obituary for a limited time at no additional charge. Other memorial websites have fee schedules to opt for a monthly, yearly, or lifetime plan.

Social media

Most, not all, social media sites allow you to post some form of an obituary notice, whether that's as an actual memorialization or through a series of photos and posts. In the cases that offer posting options, you can interact with others by sharing memories and stories in an online community.

Funeral Homes

Most, if not all, funeral homes automatically list the names of those who pass through their care. Only some offer more comprehensive obituary-style listings where you and your loved ones can determine what information is suitable for the page. 

Often, these complementary services are found in small towns and with local or family-owned businesses.

A Few More Tips About Writing an Obituary

Now that we've helped with the parts and pieces of an obituary for your brother, take a few moments to chat with friends and family. It's helpful to find out more about your brother from those who knew him best. Use their stories to fill in any gaps or support the ideas you've had. 

And take notes. A little bit of "grief-induced" amnesia is to be expected, so you may want to jot a few things down.

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