The Department of Mathematics does not discriminate against applicants or students on the basis of race, color, national origin, ancestry or any other protected classification.
Preparing the Application The statement of purpose for graduate applications is carefully weighted by the admissions committee. The applicant’s statement should convince the committee that they are able to communicate effectively and with a deep understanding of mathematics. It is not intended to be a biographical sketch or a reflection on one’s decision to enter the field.
Three letters of recommendation are required. Letter writers should be faculty or others qualified to evaluate the applicant’s potential for graduate study in mathematics. The letters must be submitted online and by the application deadline.
Applicants should include any research papers, publications, and other original works they would like to have evaluated by the admissions committee.
The department requests that applicants submit GRE Mathematics Subject Test scores if practical. Applicants should check on the ETS website for test dates in their area to ensure the scores will be submitted before the application deadline. An official score report should be sent to Harvard Kenneth C. Griffin Graduate School of Arts and Sciences using code 3451.
While the admissions committee reviews all applications submitted before the deadline, missing math subject test scores provide one less data point available to evaluate the application. Depending on the strength of the application, the missing subject test scores may put the application at a disadvantage.
Applicants who are non-native English speakers and who do not hold an undergraduate degree from an institution at which English is the primary language of instruction must submit scores from the Internet Based Test (IBT) of the Test of English as a Foreign Language (TOEFL) or the International English Language Testing System (IELTS) Academic test.
Harvard Griffin GSAS requires applicants to upload an electronic copy of undergraduate transcripts. Hard copies of official transcripts are not required at the time of application.
Ph.D. Program in Pure Mathematics The department does not grant a terminal Master’s degree, but the Master’s can be obtained “on the way” to the Ph.D. by fulfilling certain course and language exam requirements.
In general, there is no transfer status application to the Harvard Kenneth C. Griffin Graduate School of Arts and Sciences or to the Department of Mathematics. No formal credit is given for an MSc or MA earned elsewhere. All applicants are considered to be applying as first-year graduate students. The only difference Master’s study may make is to better prepare students for the Qualifying Exam.
All graduate students are admitted to begin their studies in the fall term. The department plans on an entering class of about twelve students. Since the admissions committee receives a few hundred applications, the competition is keen.
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The department strongly recommends applicants to seek out and apply for all sources of financing available to them for graduate study. Recommended sources for funding US graduate students are NSF Graduate Fellowships and NDSEG Fellowships . Applicants from the UK are urged to also apply for the Kennedy fellowships and applicants from UK, New Zealand, Canada and Australia for Knox fellowships . International students may apply for the Fullbright IIE or any home country fellowships available for study abroad.
Harvard John A. Paulson School of Engineering and Applied Sciences The Harvard John A. Paulson School of Engineering and Applied Sciences (SEAS) offers programs for both the Master’s degree and the Ph.D. degree in Applied Mathematics. Please visit the SEAS website for more information on degrees in applied mathematics at www.seas.harvard.edu
Grad life: to stay in academia or not, that is the question.
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Should I stay in academia or not after I graduate?
It’s a question that most PhD students find themselves asking at some point in their graduate careers. Some have unequivocal answers from the beginning, while others struggle with the decision even towards the end of their studies. Some just don’t want to think about it until close to their graduation or after they have had three shots of tequila on a Friday night.
Traditionally, postdoctoral positions leading to tenured track professorships would be the expected career path for PhD students. At the same time, the process it takes to get tenure is not easy, to say the least. In this article, we shall explore the vices and virtues of academia and see what prompts someone to lean towards one way over the other.
1. Passion and Freedom: The Light Side of Academia
Being an academic can feel like being an explorer and an entrepreneur with added job security. You are at the frontier of your field, navigating an uncharted territory of knowledge and pushing beyond the current limits of understanding. You often have the freedom to pursue a whole range of different projects that pique your interest.
“Working as a tenured professor essentially makes you your own boss,” said Gilbert Strang, Professor of Mathematics at MIT, “it’s great to get up in the morning and decide what you want to do for the day.”
Having been an MIT faculty since 1960s, Professor Strang is a prominent researcher and an active educator in the field of mathematical analysis, linear algebra, and partial differential equations. Recently he has moved on to machine learning.
“Machine learning has been exploding for the past few years and I simply decided to create a new course and a book,” said Professor Strang, “It’s a privilege to have the chance to pursue whatever looks exciting.”
Professor Madeleine Odin can’t agree more.
"The freedom to choose what you want to work on and who (sic) you collaborate with is one of the nicest things about academia," said Professor Odin, "at the Koch Institute where I did my postdoc, it was a great experience interacting with scientists and engineers from different fields.”
Madeleine was awarded a prestigious K99/R00 Pathway to Independence grant by the National Cancer Institute which led her to becoming an assistant professor at Tufts University. The projects funded under the grant are based on her past research, but incorporating new ideas, collaboration and strategies to tackle cancer.
2. Hyper-competitiveness and under-payment: The Dark Side of Academia
Given that you have the passion for your field, academia can be such a heaven- but only after you get tenure. Before that, it is also unstable and underpaid.
Let’s do some math here: after obtaining a PhD, you usually have to pursue one to two postdoctoral positions, each of which pays around 40K a year and can last somewhere between two to five years. After a series of postdoc positions, you would apply for assistant professorship (AP), which gives you around five years to demonstrate research capability and obtain tenure before the appointment expires. Summing up, you would have to go through nine years (four years of postdoc + five years of AP) of job insecurity and low salary after graduate school. Assuming you graduate at the age of 28, you would be close to 40 when finally getting a stable job.
The above calculation is way too optimistic. It does not take into account the hyper-competitiveness of the academic job market. During the interview, Professor Gil Strang spoke about the number of very strong PhDs on the academic job market, “I wish the success of so many good graduate schools did not lead to this problem.” At MIT, for instance, every AP position often receives 400 applications , leading to an acceptance rate which is 30 times lower than the Early Action admission rate of the undergraduate program. The hyper-competitiveness entails that you would have to adapt a fairly nomadic life, relocating to where the jobs are. As documented in an NYTimes article , a brilliant biologist by the name of Emmanuelle Charpentier rotated through nine research institutions across five countries for 25 years, before finally finding a permanent position at the Max-Planck Institute.
3. The Catch-22 of Academia
It looks like we are facing a catch-22 problem: being an academic can be one of the most passionate and stable jobs, but getting there typically requires you to face great job insecurity in one of the most saturated job markets. Ultimately, as graduate students, we have to balance our scholarly dreams with realistic concerns. At the same time, non-academic options do exist, which you can find more information about here .
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Gustie Erin Coleman ’25 has landed two highly competitive academic awards that will help her continue her plans to eventually pursue a PhD in astrophysics.
The Physics and Mathematics and Computer Science double major earned a Barry M. Goldwater Scholarship in March, the seventh Gustie to earn this scholarship in the past six years. The award was established by the United States Congress in 1986 and is given to exceptional sophomores and juniors who plan to pursue research careers in the natural sciences, mathematics, and engineering.
A short time after learning of the Goldwater award, Coleman became one of 11 students at Lutheran colleges in the U.S. to win a Rossing Physics Scholarship, the second time she’s earned that honor. It is bestowed by the Thomas D. Rossing Fund for Physics Education, which created the awards in partnership with the Foundation of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA). Dr. Rossing was an accomplished physics scholar who wanted to support academically exceptional physics majors.
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Once I was told that in mathematics, after one gets a PhD, it is very hard to change one's field of specialization (within maths). Is this true? What are the reasons? How common are counterexamples?
In your answers please also specify what country are you talking about, if you believe it matters.
I think it's quite misleading to hold up examples of very talented mathematicians or mathematicians from the distant past. The answer depends heavily on the field you want to switch into, hold closely related it is to the field you wrote your dissertation in, and how talented and hard-working you are.
In the most classical, long-established subfields of mathematics, there is a large amount of background one needs to learn to be able to do significant, original research. To take the worst example I know, a graduate student who wants to work in the general area of the Langlands program needs about 18 months to 2 years of dedicated study after their second year graduate courses to get to the point where they can tackle some problem of interest to the research community, and this is with an advisor to guide their study and steer them away from pitfalls that would result from having an incomplete knowledge of the field. (In particular, this means the graduate student likely still has some blind spots in their knowledge that would greatly slow down their research if they didn't have an advisor.)
A graduate student doesn't only have the advantage of an advisor; he or she also has a good deal more time. Most postdocs and almost all professors have more teaching responsibilities than graduate students, and professors also have service responsibilities which increase as one gets older. Furthermore, one also has to do enough research to write somewhere between one and two reasonably significant papers a year (depending on subfield) in order to be competitive for jobs that allow time for research and eventually to earn tenure in such a job. If one wants to switch into a new field, then one presumably has to do this research in their old field while learning the new field.
If someone in representation theory or algebraic geometry or other parts of number theory wants to switch to working on Langlands, then he or she needs to learn the material in one second year graduate course (because they already studied the other two or three that a complete beginner needs) and another 18 months of specialized study. It's true that some patterns of thought will be familiar, even if the specific ideas are different, so one is going to learn somewhat faster when one learns their second field, but moving into a new field still requires at least a year of dedicated study unless someone is an unusually fast learner or extraordinarily hard working. Most people don't have the time and energy to fit an extra year of work above their other duties within any reasonable timeframe. Fifty years ago, one could have given up a couple years of paper-writing to accomplish the switch, but someone trying that today would never get another job that allows significant time for research in today's far more competitive job market.
Most areas of research don't require as much background as Langlands, but unless one is moving into an essentially brand new field requiring minimal background, switching fields requires a substantial amount of time that one simply rarely has after obtaining a PhD.
Lack of an advisor can be an issue, but it is less likely to be one than lack of time. Many fields do have a significant amount of "folklore" that is well-known to experts but not clearly stated in print anywhere. These are usually ideas that are too advanced and specialized to appear in a graduate textbook, but at the same time too easy to be the subject of a research paper. At some point this folklore is used to establish more significant results in a paper, but since "everyone" knows it, it might not be explained very clearly or be easily found by someone who needs it for some other purpose. However, most fields have experts who are quite friendly and willing to explain the necessary folklore to new entrants to the field, and, at worst, one does things in a clumsy way in his or her first papers in a new field and has some folklore pointed out by a referee. If one appears talented and capable, then it is not so hard to get some help. Researchers in countries not connected to the international mathematical community (such as in Africa) generally face much more significant problems with having access to experts than people trying to switch fields.
Is it possible? Yes, but it's very hard.
Plenty of people change fields, and it is probably easier in math than in other disciplines, since we don't need any equipment. And for most people, the transition is very natural rather than forced.
Assuming that you were interested in the topic of your PhD thesis, when your interest changes gradually, so will the problems that you're interested in. But since many problems in modern mathematics actually require some training to even understand, the problems you're interested in are probably going to be in topics adjacent to your PhD thesis. And in this way, you can shift to various problems.
If you think that you're interested in a topic that is completely unrelated to your PhD thesis, be wary, because it should be really hard to judge whether a problem is interesting or not. It's very unusual to be interested in a problem without knowing any of the current techniques of the field, and you should remember that many of the cranks also approach problems this way. This being said, if you're able to find a mentor in this new field who is willing to work with you on a problem, then you might be able to overcome this difficulty.
There are many doctorates who have done their PhD in one specialization and moved their work to another. Receiving a PhD in a domain of specialization doesn't mean that they are confined to it. Mathematics is no different in this aspect.
Some of the Math professors I know did change fields and worked quite successfully. Mathematicians who work on widely applicable fields, such as statistics, computational mathematical modelling, linear and non-linear optimization methods, are considered to be versatile. They change fields and can even move across to nearly any other fields in STEM to apply their expertise.
If you are specific about counterexamples, here are a few:
So, how realistic is it to switch fields in Mathematics?
It is very realistic. Most of the famous mathematicians (as in the list above) have done it and and there are evidence stating so many typical mathematicians current generation continue to do so successfully.
[EDIT] Just saw the comment on changing within maths. So yes, new discoveries are often made by linking apparently foreing, or weakly connected, areas. Think for instance about the proof of the Fermat conjecture by Andrew Wiles. I'l add other examples later.
The specialization you invest on in a PhD IS NOT you. A (well-chosen) PhD is a unique chance in life to focus on a topic for 3+ years, and what you learn can be deployed in many other domains.
On a general side, mathematics has become a tool for selection. And doing great in maths does not mean you cannot do something else. Mathematics stories abound about great mathematicians who hesitated between two paths before a PhD, for instance with Greek or Latin, when those where selection tools (a century ago). Mathematics is a (if not THE) common language of science.
On the local side, it also depends which the side of mathematics you are on, and your power of conviction with respect to the new field you want to play on. Optimization, functional analysis, combinatorics, logics, arithmetics, even topology can lead to a number of topics: data analysis, bioinformatics, economics.
I am a not a fully trained mathematician with electrical engineering background. My personal path was on pure arithmetics (Diophantine equations) and applied data compression. I switched to harmonic analysis (wavelets). I now apply what I learned (I mean the methodology) in data processing: chemistry, biotechnologies, engine management, even real-time simulation. Most of what I use comes from my shallow math background
Mathematical reasoning is a great tool.
I usually tell people something which is almost opposite (usually in the context of having an advisor who is inexpert in what the student wants to research): you can change your research area after you get your PhD, and this is fairly common.
Here are some points to keep in mind:
it's very common to work on other types of problems after you finish your PhD
often problems you work on (and this is true of most good problems) are related to other areas, so you may be naturally led to other areas from your present work. also most areas are closely connected to many other areas.
some fields are easier to get into than others (both in an absolute sense, and also depending where you are now)
you haven't specified what you consider to be "fields" (they could be defined quite broadly or narrowly)
many problems lie at the intersection of many fields, so possibly you could do something very similar and be considered in a different field. a lot of people in area say they do representation theory, some say they do number theory, and some aren't sure.
at certain stages of your career, you have less time (say in a given semester) to spend learning new mathematics. but also at certain stages of your career you have less pressure to produce theorems.
moving to different places/talking to different people can lead naturally to working on different problems
it's possible to dabble in different fields, or work in multiple fields at once
In my experience, most mathematicians enjoy learning new things and will end up working on different things throughout their career. Certainly the majority do not make a huge field shift (e.g., PDEs to geometric representation theory), but I think many (possibly a majority) of us shift quite a bit from our thesis to the point where it feels like we're doing a different kind of mathematics. Often this is gradual, but could be sudden, and we may float back and forth between different areas. I think most of the faculty at my department (at least among those whose research I'm fairly familiar with) have at least done some work out of their "comfort zones" (e.g., algebraic number theory to analytic number theory, Riemannian geometry to combinatorial probability, etc.)
In summary, I think it's not unrealistic to change fields, particularly if that's what you want to do. Personally, I have been a number theorist since grad school, but in the 12 years since my PhD have enjoyed (and continue to) working on other things in combinatorics, harmonic analysis, representation theory, hyperbolic geometry, finite group theory, etc as well--I just choose to stay a number theorist because I want to. Just be aware that (1) some areas may be hard for you to "break into," particularly without a mentor/collaborator, and (2) it may take some time to learn the appropriate things to transition.
An opening note, I am an undergraduate student, working towards becoming a research mathematician, so perhaps I am not qualified and experience enough to answer this question, but here goes
I do believe most research mathematicians have multiple areas interests among a few particular fields. Furthermore there often aren't well-defined boundaries between different fields of mathematics, if there were, well mathematics wouldn't be where it is today.
Obtaining a PhD is more an entrance to the world of mathematical research I would say than defining the type of mathematician you want to be. Though more often than not the topics PhD students would pick for their thesis would be closely related to the areas of mathematics they find interesting.
It doesn't mean that because you obtained a PhD in say Algebraic Topology, you are destined to be a Topologist for the rest of your life.
An example I can give, is that to study Algebraic Geometry (let alone write a thesis on it), one needs to have a good understanding of Analysis, Abstract Algebra, Commutative Algebra, Algebraic Topology and a bit of Differential Geometry. So I don't see why a mathematician who obtained a PhD in Algebraic Geometry couldn't also do research in Algebraic Topology, Differential Geometry or even in Algebraic Number Theory.
Different fields of mathematics are not as separated as you may think, apart from research in some of the foundational stuff I would say (Logic, Category Theory etc.)
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Acquiring a doctoral degree is undoubtedly a momentous occasion worthy of celebrations—students can relax, unwind, and let go of the many stresses associated with the past few years of hard work. But soon, these celebrations are followed by questions on the steps needed to grow professionally after a PhD. In this post, I hope to guide you toward finding an answer to the question “What comes after a PhD?”
So what does life after a PhD look like? It is inevitable that your PhD will leave you with an array of skills that are transferable across different sectors. These could be technical skills that are domain-specific and, more importantly, broad skills such as project management, data analysis, and effective communication. Often, it takes a while after a PhD for students to acknowledge that they are indeed equipped with these skills. Hence, it is a good idea to create a portfolio, mapping different skills to the projects and tasks that were undertaken during and after your PhD.
Choosing the next step in your career and life after PhD would then trickle down to your personal preferences and leveraging your skills tactfully. If you’ve felt stuck with the question of what to do after a PhD, here are some career options to consider:
If you have wondered about your career after a PhD, by now it may be clear that what comes after PhD is not a question you should stress about as there is no dearth of career options. However, here are a few additional points to consider helping you shape your life after PhD and to ensure that your career choice aligns well with your personal preferences.
Through this article, we hope you found an answer to the common conundrum of what’s next after a PhD. Ultimately, for a happy and satisfying life after PhD, adopting a growth mindset will take you far in your career, no matter which direction you choose.
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A mother in China has become an inspiration for her ability to balance work and study to earn a graduate degree from a prestigious university.
When the woman, 53, graduated from Fudan University in Shanghai, her 23-year-old daughter, identified as Xu, made sure to attend the ceremony.
Xu told the mainland media outlet Dami video that, in 2021, her mother had applied for the school’s Masters of Business Administration programme.
The mother, who was not named, spent two hours every evening studying for her courses.
Xu said: “My mum was very happy during her studies. My dad and I would usually help with household chores for her.”
The woman also held a full-time job while attending the programme, and successfully balanced her work and academic life with unconditional support from her family.
The mother’s certification means the entire family has earned graduate degrees. Xu attended the Chinese University of Hong Kong, and her father graduated from the South China University of Technology in Guangzhou in southern China.
When her mother successfully graduated from Fudan University, Xu said: “I’m very proud of my mum! Now, our family’s education levels are all the same.”
Having achieved success in both her career and education, the mother has inspired many young people on mainland social media.
One online observer said they forwarded this story to their parents, telling them: “Even as parents, you have the right to pursue your dreams.”
Another commented: “Parents are the best role models for children.”
In Chinese tradition, parents often see their children’s success as extensions of their own lives and achievements.
They often say wang zi cheng long to their children, which means “they hope their children will become dragons in the future”. This phrase conveys the parental aspiration for their children to become accomplished individuals with successful careers.
But now, more and more young people send similar expectations and blessings to their parents.
One netizen shared his father’s story on Douyin, saying: “My dad got his PhD degree at the age of 59. Over the years of his studies, when my dad would become anxious, my mum and I took him travelling and did everything to make him happy.
“I couldn’t be happier when I saw my dad fulfil his dreams. I was happier watching him than achieving my own success.”
The “get-your-ex-back” industry is booming. it really shouldn’t be..
Benny Lichtenwalner got married young. The father of four—who spoke to me from his Kansas City home in a salt-and-pepper beard and a pair of translucent, milky-white eyeglasses, and with the tiny outline of a heart inked at the tip of his right cheekbone—was raised in a devoutly Catholic family. His parents encouraged him to settle down with his first wife fresh out of high school, and perhaps unsurprisingly, Lichtenwalner was already divorced by his mid-30s. That was when he met the woman of his dreams. “She’s the polar opposite from my wife. She’s the fun tattoo girl, while my wife was rigid,” said Lichtenwalner. “And then she just crushes me. She breaks up with me out of nowhere. Cheats on me. The whole thing.”
The heartbreak brought Lichtenwalner to his knees, and he resolved to try anything to win the “fun tattoo girl” back. So he turned to the internet and sought the advice of so-called get-your-ex-back coaches—YouTubers, authors, and podcasters who have made their careers in the large and mostly uncertified world of breakup rehabilitation. These coaches offer their clients a proprietary set of psychological and rhetorical strategies that, they claim, will cause a former lover to return to the grasp of their dumped partner, restoring the relationship.
Lichtenwalner was particularly fond of Coach Corey Wayne, one of the original innovators in the field, whose marquee self-help video, viewed more than 1.6 million times, is titled “ 7 Principles to Get an Ex Back .” Lichtenwalner followed Wayne’s advice to the letter, and sure enough, “fun tattoo girl” orbited back into his life. Naturally, two months later, the pair had broken up all over again, but Lichtenwalner became obsessed with the process of romance restoration. In 2018, he decided to get into the business himself.
“I walked the path of a lot of this stuff, and I realized I could help other people,” said Lichtenwalner, who is now 43, and is remarried. “I got on TikTok, and started putting out all these videos, and I realized that the ones about getting your ex back tend to do well. So I switched up my whole brand to be focused on that.”
Today, Lichtenwalner, who goes by “Coachbennydating” on TikTok, has over 280,000 followers. He offers free advice on his page, where he distills general-use relationship axioms into bite-size, social media–friendly clips. In one recent video, Lichtenwalner— recording shirtless from a white-sand beach —outlines the “No. 1 one skill” needed to reattract an ex: The “emotional discipline” to refrain from overindulgences like double texting. But for a more curated experience, Lichtenwalner offers one-on-one coaching sessions, via a 45-minute Zoom call, at $350 a pop, where he promises to craft a more personalized recovery plan for a client’s romantic disaster. If those clients desire even more access to Coach Benny, patrons can shell out $499 for his personal phone number, allowing them to send two “500-character inquiries” about the current status of their breakup per day. This approach has been lucrative. Lichtenwalner claims to be making “multiple six figures” from his coaching.
“No more feeling lost,” reads Coach Benny’s website, outlining the texting plan. “Take control of your relationship and navigate any challenges that come your way.”
Breakups are a foundational part of life. They happen all the time. A couple might be unable to find equitable ground on a variety of existential questions—parenthood, faith, lifestyle—and call it quits. Or two people can slowly grow distant from each other, without either party being the sole author of the discontent, until they mercifully concede that the love has flickered out. Sometimes, a relationship can detonate in spectacles of pure id—ravenous infidelity, screaming arguments, sobbing in bar bathrooms, 200 texts per hour—eventually leaving both ends of the partnership feeling raw, extreme, and ideally, free . The point here is that relationships often come to an end for a good reason, but coaches like Lichtenwalner believe that with the correct approach, anyone who’s been recently dumped can devise a way to mend even the grisliest wounds.
But can anyone truly optimize their way back into the good graces of an ex? Breakups are an amalgam of soft, emotional truths. Can they really be cracked like a math problem with the help of good coaching? Lichtenwalner’s clients, who are all invariably stinging from the hallucinatory pain of a life-defining heartache, would certainly like to believe so.
“It’s at that price because that’s what people pay,” said Lichtenwalner, when asked if he possessed any hesitation about charging such a hefty cost for his services. “My schedule is packed back-to-back all week. Think of the worst breakup you’ve had. Would you try to solve it for the price of a PlayStation? I think if their ex said, ‘Hey, give me a PlayStation and we’ll be back together,’ they’d do it. I can sleep at night just fine. Because I love that I’m helping people.”
It is difficult to know how many get-your-ex-back coaches are working on the internet. There are a handful of big names in the sector, all of whom command sizable followings on social media and loom over the smaller players. Brad Browning, who advertises himself as the “Ex Back Geek,” has over 600,000 subscribers on YouTube , while Dan Bacon, with 431,000 subscribers, promotes a $297 Get Your Ex Back Super System, which includes a video detailing how to achieve “Ultimate Makeup Sex.” The majority of get-your-ex-back mentors tend to be men, though there are some women in the field, and the coaches themselves claim to work with clients of all genders. (Lichtenwalner said that his demographics skew slightly toward women. “Most women want a man’s perspective on things because they’re talking mostly to their friends about their relationship,” he said.)
In general, life coaching—in which dubiously certified experts offer for-profit consultations on the touchy-feely facets of ill-defined “self-improvement”—is in the midst of a legitimate boom period. The New York Times reported that there has been a 54 percent increase in the number of professional coaches between 2019 and 2022 . It’s a fair assumption that other, more specific avenues of mentorship might have seen similar growth.
The prices for get-your-ex-back coaching are notoriously expensive across the board. Lichtenwalner’s premiums are actually a tick cheaper compared with some of the other relationship coaches on social media. Lee Wilson, a 44-year-old from Tennessee, runs MyExBackCoach.com. A session with him comes in at $579 for a 70-minute call. “Coach Lee,” as he’s better known on the internet, tells me he got his start in this field at a Christian marriage counseling nonprofit, where he was tasked with the rehabilitation of couples who were considering a divorce. Around that time he also developed, and then sold, a dating site in the early 2000s, and he figured a leap toward a more secular brand of relationship advice was within his expertise. So, Wilson made his way to YouTube. He uploaded a video called “What Your Ex Is Thinking During No Contact” in 2018 , where he imagines the satisfying second guesses that might be running through the head of a former partner in the aftermath of a dumping. It racked up more than 2 million views, and shortly afterward, Wilson started offering his own courses.
“[An ex] will reach out with something casual like, ‘Just wanted to see how you were doing,’ ” he said, in that video, outlining how someone can slyly direct a separation toward reconstitution. “Tell them that you’re having a great week. … That’s how they can feel the same loss that you felt when they broke up with you.”
Wilson believes that every breakup is unique, and each is buoyed by a distinct flavor of conjugal strife. But he’s also confident that there are a few objective maxims that, when learned and deployed, can help a wide swath of people get their exes back. Chief among these is the principle of “no contact,” which is also endorsed by Lichtenwalner, and practically every other relationship coach on the internet. Essentially, in cases where an ex claims that their feelings have faded, Wilson encourages his clients to systematically shut off all streams of communication with them, while simultaneously directing their time in singlehood toward personal enrichment—trusting that a boost in their own self-esteem will eventually remind a former partner of the goodness they’ve abandoned.
“They see that you’re not going to chase them down, which prevents them from running further away,” explained Wilson. “And when they do start doubting their decision to break up with you, it’s easier for them to reach out, because they haven’t attempted to escape you.”
Versions of this basic doctrine are plastered all over Wilson’s YouTube channel, essentially repeating the same idea in slightly different ways. There are videos titled, “Stages of No Contact for Your Ex,” “Mistakes You Must Not Make During No Contact,” and “Psychology of No Contact on the Dumper.” Occasionally he delves into stranger and more conspiratorial territory, while still hitting the basic notes. Earlier this month, Lee published his take on how to win back a “brainwashed ex,” a condition he blames, in part, on peer pressure put on a former partner by their single friends who “make an effort to destroy a relationship.” Taken together, the catalog reads like an attempt to squeeze down the vast cerebral mysteries of a breakup into a parsable formula—to simplify kaleidoscopic pain with black-and-white sensibility.
The problem with this is that “no contact” is not exactly exclusive information. The method has its own Reddit community , its own Quora threads , and its own Forbes explainers , and I think I speak for pretty much everyone who’s ever been dumped when I say that a label-free variation of “go no contact” is the standard advice meted out by friends and family whenever we must recover from heartbreak. It raises the question: What exactly are people paying for, when they shell out nearly $600 to Coach Lee?
“I put so much energy into the calls. I usually go over the allotted time,” said Wilson. “I bring a lot to the table as far as helping someone to really see clearly when they’re in a situation where it’s very difficult to see anything but the pain. And that’s a vulnerable place to be. They think $570 is a cheap price to pay to alleviate the pain and win a person back. They want to win. They don’t want to lose. I’ve had people say things about the price, and my opinion is, ‘Well, I’m not making you do it.’ “
Both Wilson and Lichtenwalner are adamant that the time they spend with their clients over the phone is thoughtful, well-considered, and empathetic. They’re also steadfast that the best coaching they do is when they can speak directly to a client, one-on-one, and analyze their predicament from all angles. (“Sometimes I’ll tell them that getting their ex back isn’t worth the effort,” said Wilson. “That I think they’re better off trying to move on because of the situation.”) But Kelli Harding, a professor of psychiatry at Columbia University, questions whether a single-minded devotion to the rejuvenation of a lapsed relationship is the most effective way to heal from heartache. And she has concerns about the mental state a prospective client might be in when they charge their credit card a large sum for some coaching.
“A breakup can feel like your survival is at risk,” she told me. “It really is on that biological, physiological level. And if you suddenly have someone promising you a way out, it can be tempting to lay down the cash. Being in a situation where you feel under threat, there’s definitely some risk of … I’m cautious to use the word exploitation. But you’re definitely in a vulnerable period.”
Harding’s fear lines up with the experience of Jay Pimentel, a 27-year-old from Maui, who hired the services of Coach Lee last year to heal from what he describes as a torrid, three-month-long “situationship.”
“I ended up following every breakup coach imaginable on TikTok and watching every single video that could help me in my situation,” said Pimentel, recalling the fallout of his breakup. “I felt so desperate.”
Pimentel organized a free 15-minute consultation with Wilson, who recommended that he purchase his “emergency breakup kit.” It’s a service on his website that promises to contain an “ex-return formula,” brimming with videos and self-help guides, to “reignite the spark again” in their former lover. The large red button, leading to the payment portal, is marked with the words, “WIN HER BACK!” Pimentel said it cost him $60. He made the purchase, dove into the material, and pretty soon afterward, began to feel like he’d just been scammed.
“The general thrust is just, ‘Go no contact and work on yourself,’ which is already posted on all of their videos for free, and is just a mature response in general. But it’s not worth a $60 price tag,” said Pimentel.
Pimentel ended up using the no contact method to no avail. “It ended up being just an old tall tale,” he said, of its ineffectiveness. Pimentel has since moved on. He’s healed from the breakup and is enjoying a renewed sense of growth and self-knowledge—which is the silver lining of all heartache. But he continues to harbor ill will for all the dating coaches who inculcated a false sense of hope in him.
“These coaches prey on people desperately wanting to get their partner back, say that you ‘need’ to pay for their services, and that they will ‘make a plan’ for you,” said Pimentel. “But in reality we can’t control others. We can only control ourselves.”
Honestly, Pimentel was lucky to only spend $60. Another former get-your-ex-back client, who is 28 and asked to be kept anonymous, spent a total of $1,400 on a dating coach when he was 20 and languishing in the psychic destruction of his first major breakup.
“I didn’t get her back. No amount of coaching would have helped anyways, in hindsight,” he said. “I was pretty much willing to pay anything to invest in my happiness. Which, again, was pretty impulsive and felt kind of predatory, since relationship coaches know people are not thinking straight and rationally.”
For what it’s worth, Wilson reiterated to me that he never promises his clients that the advice he offers will be effective. “The other person is their own person, they have free will, and I’m not a mind reader,” he said. Lichtenwalner, meanwhile, argued that while he is confident that the coaching is sound, practical, and battle-tested, he has little faith that his clients will wield it correctly.
“The advice that I have to give is so emotionally disciplined that I do know that a lot of people aren’t going to be able to implement it,” he said. “I have to disconnect from the results in many cases.”
This all gets us back to the central question in the get-your-ex-back industry: Can a breakup be truly mended with the designs of a carefully orchestrated psyops campaign? It makes you consider how profiteers have sold the reassurance of calculable logic within the mercurial chaos of romance for ages. Lichtenwalner and Wilson both bring to mind the pickup artists of the mid-2000s, who advertised a similar set of pseudo-anthropological nightclub theories ( negging , approach anxiety , and so on) that, the pickup artists said, would increase the number of women a man could seduce during a night out. Naturally, Lichtenwalner tells me he is familiar with pickup artist dictums and regards his get-your-ex-back turn to be a nicer, more wholesome interpretation of those same dating schemes.
“The pickup artists were operating from a manipulative perspective. Everyone got a bad taste in their mouth from the cheesy pickup artists. But a good pickup artist is just somebody that learned charisma,” said Lichtenwalner. “There’s a tasteful way to have a charismatic effect on people, and that’s important for the guy who’s lost his wife, and his kids, and the empire they have together.”
It is nice to believe that human behavior could be so predictable, in the same way it is nice to believe that, one day, your ex will miraculously shed all of the points of tension that tore them away from you in the first place, leaving the two of you fully renewed. Unfortunately, just like a breakup itself, sometimes you need to live through the pain in order to accept the truth.
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As far as I know it is not uncommon to start a PhD later in life, and 29 is not even that late. Age alone should not be much of a disadvantage. - Wojowu Feb 28, 2022 at 9:43 3
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